{"id":1501,"date":"2025-06-18T18:08:58","date_gmt":"2025-06-18T14:38:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thefibrolupusbutterf2647.live-website.com\/?p=1501"},"modified":"2025-06-18T18:09:01","modified_gmt":"2025-06-18T14:39:01","slug":"what-to-say","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thefibro-lupusbutterfly.com\/?p=1501","title":{"rendered":"What to Say"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Recently my husband asked me how I was feeling.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>I responded with &#8220;That&#8217;s a loaded question because I don&#8217;t want to come across as always complaining.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>He smiled a knowing smile of &#8220;trying to understand.&#8221;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Then said, &#8220;Maybe you could come up with a phrase that would tell me how you feel.\u00a0 For example,\u00a0 &#8216;I&#8217;m fine&#8217; might mean you feel run over, broken or hurting. If you say &#8216;I&#8217;m okay&#8217; it might mean &#8216;today isn&#8217;t as bad&#8217; &#8221;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>So, I have been pondering what he said in trying to figure out responses that are positive, but would also relay to him how I&#8217;m really feeling.<\/p>\n<p>When you are in the middle of a pain flare, being positive is not the first thing that comes to mind. We have to practice that.<\/p>\n<h2>It&#8217;s not really lying about how you feel, it&#8217;s trying to be optimistic.<\/h2>\n<p>We battle ourselves each day. Our mind can suffer; being optimistic is a learned trait.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>It can be very difficult to be optimistic when your joints literally feel like they are dangling by a thread and it&#8217;s all you can do to sit down or pick up a cup of tea.<\/p>\n<p>So, the next time he asks how I am doing, and I say &#8220;I&#8217;m fine,&#8221; he will know what that means&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Because God knows how we feel no matter what we say&#8230;or don&#8217;t say. We are all broken and in need of a savior.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The beginning of the song and chorus, <a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/1OLGUW1VHLY?si=QJNPWoEO23bg16Wn\"><em>Truth Be Told<\/em> <\/a>by Matthew West speaks volumes&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Here are the beginning lyrics:<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Lie number one, you&#8217;re supposed to have it all together&#8230;And when they ask how you&#8217;re doing, just smile and tell &#8217;em, &#8220;Never better&#8221;&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Lie number two, everybody&#8217;s life is perfect except yours&#8230;.So keep your messes and your wounds and your secrets safe with you behind closed doors&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Truth be told, the truth is rarely told&#8230;I say, &#8220;I&#8217;m fine, yeah, I&#8217;m fine, oh, I&#8217;m fine, hey, I&#8217;m fin\u0435&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>But I&#8217;m not, I&#8217;m broken.<\/p>\n<p>And when it&#8217;s out of control, I say it&#8217;s under control&#8230;But it&#8217;s not &#8230;.and You know it<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t know why it&#8217;s so hard to admit it-Wh\u0435n being honest is the only way to fix it-There&#8217;s no failure, no fall, there&#8217;s no sin You don&#8217;t already know&#8230;So let the truth be told.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Tell Jesus how you feel. Rant, rave, let it out so when your loved asks, and you say &#8220;I&#8217;m fine&#8221; they will know what you mean and the truth will be told.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Blessings-<\/p>\n<p>~The Fibro Momma of Ten<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Recently my husband asked me how I was feeling.\u00a0 I responded with &#8220;That&#8217;s a loaded question because I don&#8217;t want to come across as always complaining.&#8221; He smiled a knowing smile of &#8220;trying to understand.&#8221;\u00a0 Then said, &#8220;Maybe you could come up with a phrase that would tell me how you feel.\u00a0 For example,\u00a0 &#8216;I&#8217;m&hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/thefibro-lupusbutterfly.com\/?p=1501\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">What to Say<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1501","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","without-featured-image"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p8ZH8C-od","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":963,"url":"https:\/\/thefibro-lupusbutterfly.com\/?p=963","url_meta":{"origin":1501,"position":0},"title":"Weather Changes and Pain","author":"fibropage1","date":"March 5, 2018","format":false,"excerpt":"\"There's a change in the weather, says I\" Yep. 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