{"id":1872,"date":"2026-08-17T16:07:03","date_gmt":"2026-08-17T12:37:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thefibrolupusbutterf2647.live-website.com\/?p=1872"},"modified":"2026-08-17T16:07:05","modified_gmt":"2026-08-17T12:37:05","slug":"venting-frustrations-of-a-fibro-lupus-warrior-take-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thefibro-lupusbutterfly.com\/?p=1872","title":{"rendered":"Venting Frustrations of a Fibro-Lupus Warrior-take 1"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>I am so done with family that come across as understanding and sympathetic about these conditions I deal with 24\/7 and then judge and gossip behind my back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Fact.<\/p>\n<p>I mean, they see me up and doing, still hosting, still smiling, still moving&#8230; and then, once I finally give in to my body and sit for a minute, or lean back on a heating pad to get spine relief to continue on, they think I am being dramatic or seeking attention.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>How about them, who have done nothing but sit the entire time they&#8217;ve been here. Am I not allowed to sit, too???<\/p>\n<p>It is so exhausting being silently judged by family for how I feel.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3>NO ONE, absolutely NO ONE will ever understand what these conditions feel like.<\/h3>\n<p>How about some thanks that you just ate a meal you didn&#8217;t have to cook and sat at a clean table you didn&#8217;t have to clean?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Get off your self-righteous pedestal and stop judging me. Or worse&#8230; stop the judgement right in front of me while you are texting another person in the same room about me.<\/p>\n<p>Seriously,&nbsp; grow up.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3>Just because you see me doing, doing, doing doesn&#8217;t mean I could do it. But I did do it, and that says a lot about me.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/h3>\n<p>Rant over.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>~Thefibro-lupusbutterfly&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I am so done with family that come across as understanding and sympathetic about these conditions I deal with 24\/7 and then judge and gossip behind my back.&nbsp; Fact. I mean, they see me up and doing, still hosting, still smiling, still moving&#8230; and then, once I finally give in to my body and sit&hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/thefibro-lupusbutterfly.com\/?p=1872\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Venting Frustrations of a Fibro-Lupus Warrior-take 1<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1872","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","without-featured-image"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p8ZH8C-uc","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":355,"url":"https:\/\/thefibro-lupusbutterfly.com\/?p=355","url_meta":{"origin":1872,"position":0},"title":"Daily Life and Fibromyalgia","author":"fibropage1","date":"July 23, 2017","format":false,"excerpt":"Daily life with Fibromyalgia is not an easy thing. 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